1. Back Page was shut down
2. The Golden State Rapist/Killer was caught
3. Cosby was found guilty
Pretty incredible April and much praise to God that we get to see justice on earth!
thoughts from Sally
So this Sexual Assault Awareness Month:
1. Back Page was shut down
2. The Golden State Rapist/Killer was caught
3. Cosby was found guilty
Pretty incredible April and much praise to God that we get to see justice on earth!
I've been putting off writing about the election. I thought I'd write about it the week after, then month after, then in the new year. I told myself I needed to heal, to gain perspective, or any one of the same things you thought to yourself as well.
This isn't about a Republican winning. I voted straight Obama, but if John McCain or Mitt Romney won this last election, I'd overall be fine. They are regular guys who are against sexual violence.
But this isn't a regular guy. And America knew it. Donald Trump is a SELF-CONFESSED sexual assault perpetrator. My country just elected a man who said he likes to sexually assault women. His inauguration is tomorrow.
We've elected sexual predators before. With the allegations against Bill Clinton still alive, and the fact that many of our early Presidents owned slaves...yes, it is safe to say we've had perpetrators serving in our highest elected office in our country.
But we've never KNOWINGLY elected a SELF-CONFESSED sexual assault perpetrator as our President before. There is a tape of Trump BRAGGING about it. He released an apology, that really was no apology. Apologies are full of repentance. Apologies are humble. Apologies are not: "But this other guy is worse than me!"
Listening to the men and women of the group Celebration Recovery at my church, confessing sins and ways they hurt people, we who hear can tell what's a real apology.
Victims/Survivors didn't believe Trump's non-apology. And the
American electorate showed that they value perpetrators over innocent victims. Even as an educator, I feel betrayed. This isn't political whining, this is real life anger and sadness.
I will continue to speak out against Trump and his supporters. I wish I could preach unity and hope now that the election is over. It is much more important to stick up and speak out for victims/survivors, however. To speak truth and not gloss over crime. To reject evil. To de-normalize violence. Silence will help no one. Lowering our standards is not the American way.
I hope you'll join me.
Dear news producers,
On June 20th, a lawsuit was filed in New York against Donald Trump and Jeffrey Epstein, for child rape. Epstein, a good friend of Trump’s, already served on time soliciting charges (http://www.politico.com/blogs/under-the-radar/2015/07/judge-unseals-more-details-in-jeffrey-epstein-underage-sex-lawsuit-210065). I have tried to look for coverage of this news story on major networks like CNN, 60 minutes, and ABC/CBS/NBC national nightly news. Has it aired and I missed it?
I am suspicious that it hasn’t aired, even though Snopes cleared the story as true (http://www.snopes.com/2016/06/23/donald-trump-rape-lawsuit/). As a sexual assault prevention educator, I often see dangerous rape myths repeated on the news, poorly written articles that seem to blame the victim instead of the perpetrator, and a lack of reporting on allegations against powerful men (Bill Cosby). Whether Trump is guilty or not, is not an issue of when and how it should be covered by the mainstream news. Child rape allegations against the presidential nominee for the Republican party is a bombshell story, and needs to be covered by more than just the blog news websites (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lisa-bloom/why-the-new-child-rape-ca_b_10619944.html).
There’s a lot going on right now with racially motivated killings, in the news. These stories and the attention are long overdue. Keep focusing on them! But please also cover this story about Donald Trump allegedly raping a 13-year-old. I’ve copied and pasted all I can from the court documents shown online, below. For the complete documents, you need to visit: https://www.scribd.com/doc/316341058/Donald-Trump-Jeffrey-Epstein-Rape-Lawsuit-and-Affidavits#fullscreen . People who are thinking of voting for him need to know the truth, one way or another.
In my field, we know that victims tell the truth regarding their assault 92-98% of the time—according to the FBI. Which means it’s likely this story is true. We also see many people waiting for years to tell what happened to them, especially in childhood. Some victims never want to speak of their sexual abuse, and won’t until their hand is forced, such as in the case of their perpetrator gaining alarming amounts of power. One thing different about this story is the presence of a signed witness affidavit. This is an extremely rare piece of evidence to have in a rape case.
Scroll down to see what of the court documents could be copied and pasted. Please don’t hesitate to call or email with questions, and I look forward to seeing what your investigators uncover.
IN THE UNITED STATES DISTRICT COURT
SOUTHERN DISTRICT OF NEW YORK
JANE DOE, proceeding under a pseudonym,
DONALD J. TRUMP and
JEFFREY E. EPSTEIN,
JURY TRIAL DEMANDED
COMPLAINT FOR RAPE, SEXUAL MISCONDUCT, CRIMINAL SEXUAL ACTS,
SEXUAL ABUSE, FORCIBLE TOUCHING, ASSAULT, BATTERY, INTENTIONAL
AND RECKLESS INFLICTION OF EMOTIONAL DISTRESS, DURESS, FALSE
IMPRISONMENT, AND DEFAMATION
Plaintiff Jane Doe, proceeding under a pseudonym, brings this action against Donald J.
Trump and Jeffrey E. Epstein, and alleges that:
Plaintiff is an individual residing in and a citizen of the State of California.
Upon information and belief, Defendants Donald J. Trump and Jeffrey E. Epstein
each reside in this District and are citizens of the State of New York.
JURISDICTION AND VENUE
Plaintiff is a citizen of the State of California for purposes of diversity jurisdiction
under 28 U.S.C. § 1332.
Defendants are citizens of the State of New York for purposes of diversity
jurisdiction under 28 U.S.C. § 1332.
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This Court has original subject matter jurisdiction with respect to this action
pursuant to 28 U.S.C. § 1332 as there exists complete diversity of citizenship between Plaintiff and Defendants and the amount in controversy exceeds Seventy Five Thousand Dollars
($75,000.00), exclusive of interest and costs.
Defendants are each subject to the jurisdiction of this Court pursuant to 28 U.S.C.
§ 1332 with proper venue pursuant to 28 U.S.C. § 1391 as both defendants are residents of and/or are domiciled in this district and the events giving rise to the claims occurred in this district.
RAPE, SEXUAL MISCONDUCT, CRIMINAL SEXUAL ACTS, SEXUAL ABUSE,
FORCIBLE TOUCHING, ASSAULT, BATTERY, INTENTIONAL AND RECKLESS
INFLICTION OF EMOTIONAL DISTRESS, DURESS, AND FALSE
Plaintiff was subject to acts of rape, sexual misconduct, criminal sexual acts,
sexual abuse, forcible touching, assault, battery, intentional and reckless infliction of emotional distress, duress, false imprisonment, and threats of death and/or serious bodily injury by the Defendants that took place at several parties during the summer months of 1994. The parties were held by Defendant Epstein at a New York City residence that was being used by Defendant Epstein at 9 E. 71st St. in Manhattan. During this period, Plaintiff was a minor of age 13 and was legally incapable under New York law of consenting to sexual intercourse and the other sexual contacts detailed herein. NY Penal L § 130.05(3)(a). The rapes in the first, second, and third degrees; sexual misconduct; criminal sexual acts in the first, second, and third degrees; sexual abuse in the first, second, and third degrees; and forcible touching (and, on information
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and belief, predatory sexual assault) detailed herein are unlawful under New York law, e.g., NY Penal L § 130.20-130.52, and 130.55-130.65 (and, on information and belief, 130.95) and constitute the torts of,
, assault, battery, false imprisonment, and intentional or reckless infliction of emotional distress, including threats of force and serious bodily harm, under New
York law. Declaration of Plaintiff Jane Doe, Exhibit A hereto; Declaration of Tiffany Doe,
Exhibit B hereto. Jane Doe and Tiffany Doe are each pseudonyms as each woman wishes
anonymity. Tiffany Doe, a witness, was an employee of Defendant Epstein. Exh. B.
Courts have discretion to allow proceeding anonymously where the need for
privacy outweighs the public’s interest in knowing their identity and any prejudice to the
Sealed Plaintiff v. Sealed Defendant
, 537 F.3d 185, 189 (2d Cir. 2008). This
litigation involves matters that are highly sensitive and of a personal nature, and identification of Plaintiff would pose a risk of retaliatory physical harm to her and to others. Exh. A. All of the ten factors that the Second Circuit articulated as relevant to this analysis favor anonymity,
especially factors 1-4, 7, and 10 (e.g., factors one and two: “whether the litigation involves matters that are ‘highly sensitive and [of a] personal nature,’” and “’whether identification poses a risk of retaliatory physical or mental harm to the ... party [seeking to proceed anonymously] or even more critically, to innocent non-parties’”), or are neutral with respect to anonymity.
Protecting Plaintiff’s anonymity is also appropriate as she is a rape victim.
Plaintiff was enticed by promises of money and a modeling career to attend a series of parties, with other similarly situated minor females, held at a New York City residence that was being used by Defendant Jeffrey Epstein. At least four of the parties were attended by Defendant Trump. Exhs. A and B. On information and belief, by this time in 1994, Defendant
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(Note: The words “victim” and “survivor” are a matter of personal choice to the person designated. “Victim” is used here, as a natural extension of the discussion on “Victim-blaming.” Please know “survivor” is just as apt. “Rape” is also used, when “Sexual Assault” can apply as well, but just in this article. TW: victim-blaming, sexual assault and rape.)
As a Sexual Assault Prevention Educator for the past 3 years, I’ve gone from brainwashed Rape Culture buyer, to educated fighter, in a relatively short time. This explosion of personal growth sometimes frustrates the hell out of me when I see my friends and loved ones haven’t traveled with me. Nowhere is this more apparent than when I relate a terrible rape story from the news, and one of my beloved inner circle opens their mouth to say something completely idiotic. Yes that’s right, I’m friends with victim-blamers.
We’ve all heard the comments from relatives and friends:
“Why was she walking there after dark?”
“What did he expect, drinking like that?”
Or my personal favorite, “Where were their parents?”
“But wait,” you say, “I’ve said that before and I’m a good person!” Perhaps that is true. But I would like to propose something: Perhaps your fear is making you sound like a bad person.
Perhaps your fear is cutting you off from empathy.
Perhaps your fear is making you illogical.
Your fear may even be re-traumatizing the victim and helping the perpetrator get away with it.
I’ve shared this theory with many classes, and asked my students if it makes sense. So far they’ve agreed that victim-blaming behavior in our society could very well be based on fear. The fear theory goes a little like this:
1. You hear a story of rape or sexual assault, and you subconsciously freak out.
This is terrible—why would someone do this to a fellow human person? Wait, if humans are capable of perpetrating this evil, doesn’t this mean it could happen to me too? Or my daughter? Or my son? No, I can’t handle that thought.
2. You realize that you have very little power over evil, but maybe you have other power…
Did the perpetrator have a gun? Did they pretend to be a “Nice Guy”? Was she bigger than the victim? Crap, maybe this wasn’t preventable. Maybe the victim had no escape. Maybe YOU would have no escape. You can’t control people’s evil actions, so maybe the only way to avoid an attack is by being really careful beforehand…?
(Sidebar—that won’t work either. But your brain is desperate for a solution.)
3. The only thing left to control is a victim’s decisions before the attack.
By now your subconscious has done the math, and you/your loved ones come up losing in this potential terrifying scenario. The only way you can avoid the thought is if you can make up differences between yourself and this current victim. Do you dress the same? Drink the same? Trust others the same amount? Once you’ve selected the key biggest difference, your fear can latch on to that. If you never drink, and the victim drank—even a little—that means you can comfortably create a narrative of blame that involves something you would never do.
Or worse, you may pretend you would somehow know not to drink, if in this same situation. Forgetting that you often do drink in such situations. Because the situation seems normal and innocent at the time! It’s just a regular night out.
4. If you just don’t do that 1 thing—or even multiple things—this terrible thing won’t happen to you.
Your subconscious has now established a protective lie: If you don’t drink, you’ll never have to worry about rape. (Or substitute “Wear short skirts” or “Sleep with multiple partners”—whatever the difference was between yourself and the victim; real or perceived.) No need to feel powerless about something that happens to millions of people every year! You know the secret to safety. And you can tell your loved ones what it is, so they will also be safe!
5. Wait, that’s an easy solution! Why didn’t the victim do that?
Now’s the time for the idiocy. Your subconscious kicks it over to your conscious—this all happened in a split-second—and you UTTER THE VICTIM-BLAMING STATEMENT.
Why did she do that?
He should have known that was a dangerous situation.
Who wears that anyway?
Their mom needs to keep a better eye on them.
Translation: I won’t “get raped” because I’ll make better choices. I’ll be safe. I don’t have to face this terrible reality.
The terrible reality is: there is very little we can do, if someone REALLY wants to commit evil acts against us.
It’s a hard truth to swallow. Some will never accept it. Powerlessness is just too painful to acknowledge. And being powerless to stop it against your kids, siblings, spouse? That may even be a worse thought.
This is why in my field, we don’t like to use the term “get raped.” Someone “rapes” another. It is totally and completely the rapist’s fault. Ask yourself, would you ever rape someone? Does it ever cross your mind as a possibility? Do you see someone passed out on your couch, and think: now’s my chance! No? Then why do we let rapists get away with that behavior?
When we blame the victim, that’s exactly what we are doing. We normalize their behavior by saying the victim should have anticipated it. Even if our fear is the motivator, it’s still extremely unfair of us. Someone was just living their life, and another person attacked them. This victim is now angry, confused, hurt, humiliated, depressed, and not at all sure how they feel about their new title as “victim.” Why can’t they go back to getting mad at traffic and needing only a donut to make their day happy?
Many victims are re-traumatized by police, friends, relatives, and society at large, by victim-blaming statements. Knowing if fear is a motivator for your use of such language, may help you to change your statements to supportive. Try to train your mouth to think of these first:
I believe you.
I’m sorry this happened to you. It’s not your fault.
What do you need from me?
I’m not trained in any of this, but I will do my best to listen.
Tina Fey and Amy Poehler star in “Sisters,” which opened Friday. The current trailer showing features Fey and Poehler shopping, dancing, and reading in the bath together, as sisters. Seems inoffensive, right?
But the first trailer (Did they pull it after complaints?) features Poehler sexually assaulting an elderly man under her care. Then it moves on to Fey sexually harassing a local landscaper. In the extended version on YouTube (see it and wince, here), Fey’s crush tells her that his “safe word is: keep going.” The preview finishes up with Poehler’s date accidentally being penetrated with a toy (which is supposed to be comical).
Such a celebration of sexual violence in their art, calls into question a great many things, but most notably, Fey and Poehler’s reputation as feminists.
Feminism is defined as the movement that seeks equality between men and women. There are many subsets, like Radical Feminism, Christian Feminism, Socialist Feminism, et al. But as a sexual assault prevention educator, I’ve always found all feminists to be against sexual violence. (To my great relief.)
Fey and Poehler are specifically highlighting women sexual assaulting men, in their movie “Sisters.” Not as a serious issue that needs to be addressed in America, but something to get cheap laughs.
Now, to think male sexual assault is funny is not only abhorrent, but also un-feminist. If feminism were to support the idea, it would have to also support the idea of sexual assault against women as funny, since the goal is to treat men and women equally. And feminism has never laughed at men sexually assaulting women.
So why have Fey and Poehler acquired the title of feminists? Is it because they are strong women? Successful women in a male-dominated field? Because they say they are?
From time to time, we see Internet lists of famous feminists. Fey is invariably there, and one of her famous quotes is: “And if I have to listen to one more grey-faced man with a $2 haircut explain to me what rape is, I’m gonna lose my mind.” (here)
If said man with a cheap haircut understands that rape isn’t funny, and shouldn’t be portrayed as such in movies—perhaps her mind does need to be lost…
Poehler, for her part, runs the organization Amy Poehler’s Smart Girls, an awareness project that publishes articles and videos for young women. Profiling successful women in STEM fields, reporting on school-age activists, educating about the Bechdel test, and highlighting positive changes for girls in different societies, is just part of the posts shared from the Smart Girls’ site (http://amysmartgirls.com).
This work sounds feminist, but how can she then make this movie with such a horrible message to young women—namely, that sexual violence toward men is funny?
We would never expect a comedienne to get up and laugh about a woman being raped. Or would we?
Sarah Silverman, a successful actress, comedienne, and writer, is known for her support of reproductive rights. This support is often linked to feminism, as many women would be for freedom of choice for men, if they had the capacity to get pregnant. But Silverman doesn’t shy away from rape “jokes,” even against females, or pretending to be a victim herself.
Like: "Joe Franklin raped me."
And the ever popular: “I was raped by a doctor… which is so bittersweet for a Jewish girl."
(Note: In this article, I seem to be only referencing white, cis-gender, and American comediennes. Is there only a problem with this subset of comediennes—perhaps because of privilege and entitlement? Or is it that I see them more often, since mainstream media pushes them into the spotlight more than POC/foreign/queer comediennes? Am I just seeing myself in them, and that’s why I’m so disappointed in their behavior? I certainly would never subscribe to this kind of “comedy.” And I surely don’t know the answers to these questions.)
I spoke on healthy relationships and sexual consent last February at a college. “No Means Yes” was a rape myth that just wouldn’t die, I explained. For my example, I played a GIF of a moment from the movie Pitch Perfect 2. In it, a man propositions Rebel Wilson’s character for sex. She says, “No!” then winks at him. The man is understandably confused, and says, “So you said ‘no,’ but then you winked. So that’s a no, then?” Wilson says, “Of course not!” then winks once more.
Filmmaker Elizabeth Banks shouldn’t even have had that in her movie. Does she know how many times I’ve had to de-program teens from media rape myths? Does Wilson care how hard it is? Does Silverman think of how much pain she causes rape victims/survivors? Do Fey and Poehler see how hypocritical their messages are to their fans?
The answer is sadly, no. Comediennes say things for laughs, which bring money. If they can say whatever they need for a laugh, while railing against the same attitudes in other projects, their success is our fault. We need to stop buying that double-talk.
Male Comedians are shunned and made to apologize when they make a rape “joke” (Daniel Tosh comes to mind.) But it’s ok when a woman does it? A woman does it against a male victim? A woman who’s known as a “feminist” does it? Such a double standard isn’t usual for feminists, whose whole issue is one gender being treated differently from another.
We need to stop handing out the “feminist” title like candy. Good job, Fey, for showing those men in Hollywood that women can be funny! Good job, Poehler, for encouraging young ladies! Here’s your treat: the crown and scepter of feminism!
A feminist doesn’t make rape jokes. Period. Feminists work for other people, comediennes/comedians work only for themselves.
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. My company, Truth Speaks, is a part of the Pierce County Commission Against Domestic Violence. The PCCADV has been working on a letter to the Seahawks for months now, regarding their policy on DV and players. Here is the statement:
12 Seahawks Way
Renton, WA 98056
September 22, 2015
Dear Seattle Seahawks,
Football season is here and Domestic Violence Awareness Month is approaching. As fans of the Seahawks and as agencies serving your fans, we want to voice our concern about the Seahawks drafting Frank Clark despite his publically documented abusive behavior towards his girlfriend in November 2014 in Ohio. The Pierce County Commission Against Domestic Violence (PCCADV) is comprised of several non-profit and government organizations, working against domestic violence in the South Sound. Many PCCADV members work directly with victims and offenders of domestic violence.
Since Clark’s draft in May 2015, many articles and questions surfaced involving Clark’s arrest for domestic assault. The Pierce County Commission Against Domestic Violence (PCCADV) thinks the Seahawks’ actions don’t match the values of the Seahawks. It appears the Seahawks have chosen athletic skill over non-abusive behavior and character. As Seahawks fans and supporters, we expect more. The police report from Clark’s arrest in Nov 2014 and statements from those who witnessed the attack clearly point to Clark physically abusing his then-girlfriend. As professionals working within the field of domestic violence (DV), we are aware that prosecutors and judges often fail DV victims by dropping charges or charging “disorderly conduct” instead of a DV charge. Despite this the Seahawks can easily see the truth of the abuse that occurred by reading the police reports, survivor and witness statements (like the survivor’s brothers, the responding officers, and the hotel clerk). In spite of this information and evidence, the Seahawks’ General Manager stated in a press conference “We would never take a player that struck a female or had a domestic violence dispute like that.’’ The witnesses reported in the police report that Clark struck and strangled his then-girlfriend. Domestic Violence is not limited to someone being 'hit' or 'struck” it includes a range of behaviors and Mr. Clark's behavior of strangling his girlfriend is domestic violence. The Seahawks openly admit that the only “witness” they spoke to was Clark, who we presume would be biased about his behavior. The information from the police report from Perkins Township was made public and it is available on the internet by the Sundusky Register and kirotv.com. The information in the police report and news reports clearly documented abusive behavior and domestic abuse. Our focus for this letter is not to punish Frank Clark because that can only be done by the prosecutor and court in the County and State in which he committed the crime. Our purpose is to advise and enlighten the Seahawks organization that a thorough review of the information available or honest statement of the Seahawks decision to draft Mr. Clark regardless of his behavior, was needed in this circumstance.
The Seahawks seem to have ignored the issue of the NFL's zero tolerance policy and setting a good example to youth and fans in favor of making money on a player. This draft choice goes in direct conflict to Russell Wilson's Pass the Peace Campaign and Why Not You Foundation partnership with the National Domestic Violence Hotline. It is our hope that the Seahawks players and leadership excel not only in football but also in the personal development of its players and leadership.
In the Criminal Justice System perpetrators are fined by the Court or assessed a “crime victim assessment” to help defray some of the cost for medical, services and counseling for victims. The NFL issues fines teams/players for DV offenses, therefore we at the PCCADV think it is fair to issue a fine for the Seahawks for violating the “zero tolerance policy” for players who perpetrate domestic abuse. According to National Public Radio (NPR), the NFL fined Ray Rice $58,000 for attacking his fiancée.
The PCCADV hereby fines the Seattle Seahawks $58,000 for drafting Frank Clark, disregarding the facts about domestic abuse he committed in November 2014. This fine is due in 60 days from date of this letter. It can be paid to any Domestic Violence victim advocacy or education organization within Washington State.
There are several local Domestic Violence organizations and non-profits located in Pierce, King, Kitsap, Thurston, Snohomish, Skagit and counties throughout Washington State. Some organizations that would qualify are:
- Our organization, The Pierce County Commission Against Domestic Violence is also a non- profit and though we do not serve domestic violence victims directly, we support the organizations in Pierce County that provide services to victims.
- Any one of DV victim/survivor shelters in those counties.
- Any Tribal affiliated DV victim/offender programs in those counties.
The PCCADV can assist the Seahawks organization to identify domestic violence victim service providers within Washington State so donations and partnerships can be established.
It is Ordered the Seattle Seahawks shall pay:
$ 500.00 Crime Victim Assessment Fine
Total: $ 58,500.00
In lieu of paying the $58,000 fine assessed, the Seattle Seahawks players, coaching staff and management can join with the Pierce County Commission Against Domestic Violence in bringing awareness to the issues of domestic violence by:
1) Attending the Tacoma-Pierce County Domestic Violence Awareness Rally on Friday ￼10/2/2015 at noon in Tacoma.
￼2) Wearing PURPLE during the month of October on and off the field. October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month as well as Breast Cancer Awareness Month.
￼3) Establish a partnership with Pierce County Commission Against Domestic Violence to foster a better understanding of domestic violence.
The PCCADV welcomes the opportunity to share information and educate the Seahawks team and organization about the serious issue of domestic violence.
Please contact The PCCADV to follow up on this letter at firstname.lastname@example.org.
The Pierce County Commission Against Domestic Violence (PCCADV) Pierce County Commission Against Domestic Violence
CC: John Schneider, Sandy Gregory, Russell Wilson, KIRO news, Seattle Times, Rita Smith
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Sally is a Christian, Sexual Assault Prevention Educator, Feminist, writer, and social justice fighter.